Mythlorn-art has been forcibly marked as explicit by Tumblr logarithms. I repeat. My main blog has been forcibly marked as explicit by Tumblr, cutting off contact with a majority of my followers. The post in question? A post about my birthday. Nevermind that I respect my followers and created a blog that I CHOSE to mark as explicit and put my explicit work here, (The artistic nudity on my main blog is sporadic—and always marked as not safe for work.)  Why, then, have they chosen to silence me? Because I’m gay? Because I’m trans? Because I suffer from depression? Because they felt like it? They have effectively silenced my main blog by forcibly flagging it. But I will keep shouting. I will reblog this post, every hour on the hour, from this blog, until Tumblr has remedied their error. Show your solidarity by reblogging this post, too. Don’t let them take away our voices. Shout for me and tell them to fix this mess. I filed a report, but I doubt I will ever hear back. Scream it from the rooftops.







if your definition of queer doesn’t include asexuals and aromantics, kindly fuck right the fuck off

if your definition of queer includes allies, what the fucking fuck

if your definition of queer relies solely on gatekeeping other queers, fuck you and the fuck you fucked in on


this post has been up for maybe half an hour and i’ve already been called a dimwit, a cishet, and accused of homophobia

good going, pride fam

I keep getting pushback for using the word “queer” because “it’s a slur” and I wish these people understood their roots. We’ve been using “queer” for-fucking-ever.

“We’re here; we’re queer; get used to it!” None of these kids seem to remember that, or even know about it. The study of the history and culture of the LGBT community? Queer theory. It’s okay if the term “queer” bothers you, but you can’t erase it from our history. We owned that and made it ours.

You know what were slurs when I was growing up? Gay and lesbian.

The gatekeepers say that the A is for cis het allies, because those folks could be closeted, but they also use the cis het argument to keep ace and aro people out. Never mind that they don’t want allies participating, anyway. Never mind that they don’t even use the A to begin with.

Ace people are queer enough. Aro people are queer enough. They’re here; they’re queer; get used to it.

As an ace queer, I appreciate this post. The a does not fucking stand for allies. Allies don’t get a letter, and real allies don’t want one because they understand why they shouldn’t.

I literally cannot fathom why so many people under the age of 20 are failing to understand that their irrational phobias of asexual people and the word queer are NOT part of our history or shared experience. THIS is the problem with insisting on the invisibility of our community in the media and in education; they just assume that we have no history.

I mean, for god’s sake, kids, EVERY term for LGBTQIA people originated as a slur. Just because YOU don’t recognize the words “lesbian” and “sapphic” as slurs doesn’t mean that wasn’t what they were as recently as eighty years ago. The word “homosexual” was first used in a draft of a Prussian PENAL CODE in the nineteenth century. And surely I don’t have to tell you that “Gay” is used as a slur to this DAY.

Learn your HISTORY. We fought for these words. We fought HARD for them. Nobody is saying you have to use them, but you need to STOP trying to police others out of it. Especially if you’re going to be spouting ahistorical nonsense about the people against whom it was used. Go to your nearest college library and start actually reading about our history instead of just assuming you know what it is; people have been using the word queer to bludgeon ace people, intersex people, trans people, bi people, LOTS of people that you are trying to kick out of our family because you don’t feel safe unless they feel miserable.

Also, calling aces het is the same thing as calling heterosexuality the default state. Not experiencing heterosexual attraction means you’re not heterosexual. That is how that works.





Honestly all the ace discourse probably did start with cishet aces and other aces who id only as ace. But now this discourse has moved on to literally hating everyone asexual/aromantic or relating to them. Trust me I would know. There’s also another important ace discourse fact I think should be mentioned more people shouldn’t have to give out/add to their ID to be valid in the first place. Asexual should be valid in itself.

I normally never comment on posts but I was just thinking about this and I need to add on. It’s like, the qualifying factor for whether someone whose ace or aro is allowed in the community is if they are Gay Enough. Like, I saw a post earlier justifying why “cishet” aces shouldn’t be accepted, saying basically, if a homoromantic asexual is just as gay as their gay/lesbian counterpart, doesn’t that mean that a heteromantic asexual is just as straight as their straight counterpart? And if you think about it that way sure, you’d be right. But why should my acceptance in the community be based around how gay I am?

Every argument about aces is basically “You must be this gay to get on the ride.” (Until they suddenly aren’t,) And it’s ridiculous that asexuality isn’t recognized as its own thing. You have to have some kind of “acceptable non straight identity” tagged along. And from then people refer to you as gay, or pan, or bi. Not as ace. Because they don’t respect asexuality as a genuine identity that doesn’t need a separate crutch to make it non-straight.

I am asexual. I am also panromantic. I could see myself falling in love and most importantly being happy and comfortable in a relationship with anyone as long as they are kind and make me laugh. But being panromantic shouldn’t be the deciding factor in whether I’m allowed into the community or not. The additional identity isn’t what defines me or what I hold closest to my heart in defining who I am. I am Asexual. If you asked me, “What are you?” That would be my reply. Because fundamentally, on that level, that’s what I am. That is who I am. And that should be enough.

And that’s why people are angry.

As someone who has been on tumblr for around 6 years, way before ‘ace discourse’ started; this is what it’s about.

When I first got on tumblr and started finding my identity as asexual (maybe 4-5 years ago), the split attraction model wasn’t as popular.

But it wasn’t asexuals or aromantics who made it popular. Largely the push came from non-aspec people. Everyday you could go into the tag and find a new person saying that aces HAD to id as something else as well. The phrase ‘ace is HOW you love not WHO, you need to tell us WHO for your identity to count as a sexual orientation’.

It’s always been about asexuality or aromanticism not ‘counting’ on their own. Back then we were making ace/aro-ness up. It wasn’t real. We were ‘just normal’, because ‘everyone feels that way about it’ and ‘other people aren’t attracted to everyone they meet’.

Aphobia has always been about aspec identities not being real, so they have to fall back on ‘if your identity isn’t real, what are you REALLY so we can decide if you can join’.

This post really spoke to be. I’ve watched the attacks on asexual identities with horror this month. It’s left me in tears at points.

I spent years questioning myself because of this divide between sexual and romantic attraction. I (eventually) figured out I wasn’t sexually attracted to anyone (and that was hard enough considering I didn’t find out about asexuals until my twenties), but what about romance?

I started questioning my friendships because as far as I could tell I was perfectly satisfied having a meal out or something once or twice a week. Meal out = date territory, was I dating? Was all my romantic needs being satisfied with friendly conversation?

I questioned myself for almost a decade over this. It seemed impossible to me or anyone else that I would have no romantic needs on top of being asexual, yet here I am.

I’m alone. I’m complete. I’m happy with my self.

I wouldn’t mind a partner in a vague sort of way that makes me think it’s more cultural than anything else, mostly I’m indifferent to the idea.

I’m asexual. Why do I need to say or be more?

Can I pass as cis? Not really. Most people can tell after a few weeks of knowing me that I’m not cis. They usually assume I’m gay. I’ve been screamed at because I wouldn’t admit to my ‘type’. I’ve been an object of ridicule because I’m broken in their eyes. I’ve been forced to sit through porn because people refused to believe it. And I know it could be so much worse.

It hurts, you know? To be excluded from something you thought you would be welcomed to. I expected better.









The most valuable chart…


yes thanks for colouring it I had a hard time reading that

// I’m going to reblog this to help all RPers when it comes to descriptions

// Even if you’re a great RPer you still need this.

// To describe

// y’know

// the things

Im not a writer but im sure i have some followers that are so here yall go!

taa daa

share this with your friends, @charlesoberonn

I shall. It’s a great ref.